The Catholic Morning Show

Is Your Marriage Really "Irreconcilable"? – Deacon Randy Kiel – 08/04/2026

Episode Summary

Deacon Randy Kiel, a licensed counselor and founder of Kardia Counseling, joins Bo Bonner to explain why "irreconcilable differences" is a legal label, not a spiritual verdict, on couples working through conflict. He walks through the difference between forgiveness and the lingering pain of a wound, and offers practical steps for reconciling the "ideal" of marriage with the real, imperfect person a spouse married. It's a faith-centered conversation on discord, discipleship, and the sacrament of holy matrimony for any couple working through a hard season.

Episode Notes

About This Segment In his monthly appearance on The Catholic Morning Show, Deacon Randy Kiel — a licensed mental health counselor and founder of Kardia Counseling in Des Moines — talks with host Bo Bonner about marital discord and the popular but misleading idea of "irreconcilable differences."

Highlights

• Why "we marry our imagination" and then spend years discovering the real person.
• The difference between forgiving a wrongdoing and healing from the pain it caused.
• Practical steps for closing the gap between the "ideal" of marriage and the concrete, imperfect reality of married life.
• Why marital discord is common, not a sign of a bad marriage or bad people.

Get Help Deacon Kiel and the team at Kardia Counseling work with individuals, couples, and families on marriage and relationship struggles. Learn more at Kardia Counseling or call 515-267-0030.

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